What does your life look like?
- Are you busy all the time, constantly looking after those around you to the detriment of yourself?
- Are you busy all the time and seemingly getting nothing done?
- Are you sitting around with lots of time wishing you had more to do?
The issue here is time management, but it's also a little bit of self-management. I know people who are always busy running from one thing to the next, but they eat terribly and sleep terribly. I know others who have almost nothing to do and also eat and sleep terribly (I was that person!).
The question is: is your life allowing you the time you need to take care of the one entity you are most responsible to and for?
(If you're really feeling clueless, that entity is YOU!)
Part of becoming a responsible adult is doing the necessary things to be a whole, properly functioning being.
This means: eating right, sleeping enough, getting physical activity, and having some purpose in the world. You might also include (as I would) making sure my surroundings are tidy, participating in some spiritual endeavor daily, and other such things.
These are things meant to nourish you...from the inside out.
So what should do if you're not doing your best at taking care of you?
- Look at the places where you are doing things that make you feel bad. These might include: constantly following up on other adult's errands (even if that other adult is a spouse or an adult child), sitting around on the computer for hours on end, eating too much, sleeping too little, watching too much TV.
- Change the negatives gradually. If you watch too much TV, gradually reduce it. If you find yourself getting sucked in by the computer, give yourself a time limit. If you aren't eating well, make better plans.
- Take pride in yourself and that fact that by taking responsibility for yourself you are increasing your personal integrity. When you take care of yourself you actually make time because your efficiency increases and you eliminate the time-wasting things. You can proud of that. Most people will never try.
I find that most people I talk to are fundamentally unhappy with the way their day-to-day life is going. I have, too. But it only takes a decision to change the trajectory. And you only have to make that decision once every day.
You can do it.