Sometimes things go bad. And they keep going bad, almost, it seems, without any end. And then we wonder whether we can really take any more. We've heard the saying, "God never gives you more than you can handle" but sometimes it can feel like the burdens of 'what we can handle' are pushed to their outer limits.
And it doesn't feel good!
But there's a trick that can help: Look for the Lesson.
The lesson can be hidden and hard to find, but ultimately, there is always one. And when we look at our life as a series of lessons and moments for learning more about ourselves and how we interact in the world, we can find meaning in the difficult times.
There's significant research that shows that when we experience loss or hard times, if we can find meaning in what has or is happening, we are much more able to move on without trauma and with a healthier, wholer heart.
Maybe someone in your life is going through a medical emergency: Perhaps the lesson is to love more and blame less. To cherish the moments of togetherness.
Maybe you're having financial issues and you can't seem to get your head above water: Perhaps the lesson is to value what you have, to be thankful for the blessings of your life, and to be appreciative.
Maybe you feel like everyone's out to get you and you feel ostracized and separated from your family: Perhaps the lesson is to look at yourself and to see how you might be contributing to your current state of unhappiness. Perhaps the lesson is to learn to be humble, to reach out, to listen.
Whatever pain or heartache you are going though there is a lesson. I believe that the universe is trying to teach us, to move us in the direction of greater knowledge and increased vision. Let's not waste the moments we are given to learn the things we need to move forward on our paths.